The Motives of Bullying

Motives of bullying can be found in many locations, some of the locations are: School, the acts of bullying can be easily seen when you are a student but what makes them do that is only known by the bully himself. Some of the most common motives of bullying at school is the bully being influenced by another bully, this means that the bully that you are facing is a person who is being bullied by other people and the reason why he did this kind of act was because he wanted to release his anger by hurting others so the victim could feel what the bully felt. This kind of motive has been seen by myself and I felt how it would like to be bullied. The person who bullied me cannot be revealed because of personal reasons. However, I can tell you how I handle this kind of problem based on my past experiences. If the bully is in a calm mood or a neutral mood you should have the courage to talk to him, find a way to slip past his anger and try to understand why he did those kind of things to you, did not release your anger to him when he is in this kind of mood the problem would be much bigger and uglier (trust me I have done this kind of act and it is not ok for me to do) after you understand with the bully and maybe make friends with him you and your new “friend” should go to a expert in this problem. The experts that you can find is either you teacher, a well being teacher, or your parents so they can do further actions in this kind of matter. This is hard for a victim of bullying to do and there will be sometimes that you will fail to do this but the reward after you successfully pull this off. Other examples are at home, the acts of bullying can also come from your own house and the reason is bad parenting. Now this blog will not explain into detail about bad parenting but all I can say is that the child of the parents usually follows what their parents do, and the result of bad parenting may make the child a bully in the future. Some acts of bad parenting that an make a child into a bully is the parents bullying their own child, the reason of this act is beyond my expertise but there are some websites of why these parents can bully their own children. The reason why these parents do these kind of acts is to discipline their children by being angry, hurting, or sicken their won child all for the sake of discipline Here are some of the websites that you can see:

http://www.bullyingstatistics.org/content/bullying-parents.html https://truthcc.org/bullying-part-1-parents-who-bully-their-children/

This may seem illogicality to many of us “ why does a child follow those kind of hideous acts” true there are some children who disobey their parents when they do such act but some of the children in this world follow their acts because they may think that they can again achieve power over other people. How can we avoid this from happening and if you are the victim of the bully by your own parents what should you do? Well there are two ways that you can do to your parents firstly is to talk to them patiently of what you don like them doing, tell them that doing these kinds of things wont achieve their own goals because in the end bullying does not achieve anything. If talking to them is not enough to stop them from bullying you the next step is to ask another person or senior to talk with your parents, a teacher or a expert would be good people to talk with because a teacher is like a second parent to most of children and an expert could talk things out expertly.

Based on these examples this proves that a motive can be something that even the parents does not know off also based on these examples a motive can be said as a act of others that can effect the victim to acts that are similar to the person who do it to the victim and these acts are gaining power over others, making you feel good while hurting others or bullying.